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Clear Pathways Coaching Newsletter 7/9/08
Dear Friends: Welcome to Clear Pathways Coaching monthly newsletter.
This month’s theme is about how our beliefs shape what we think, say and do. John Assaraf’s article below says it all. My words would only be a redundancy.
Warmly, Lillian
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In this issue:
Quote of the month
The Main Thing
Humor Your Stress
QUOTE OF THE MONTH: I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief. – Jerry Spence
THE MAIN THING:
The real power of your beliefs
by John Assaraf
Mindset for Success
You have thousands of beliefs, both positive and negative, that cause you to perceive and act in certain ways, in your business life as well as in your personal life.
The effects of your beliefs are not as abstract as you might think. You and I act in absolute accordance with what our internal beliefs are, and not with what we may want. We can override our beliefs temporarily using our will power, but I assure you that over the long haul the ‘internal’ image we have of our self will always win.
Let’s say you’re looking at a restaurant menu. You’ll make a decision and take action by ordering and eating the food that aligns with your beliefs about health and nutrition. The result of that decision will determine whether or not you’ll have an abundance of energy. It will determine, over a period of time, your external appearance. It will also determine your internal health.
As you can see, one small decision affects a whole range of things. Choosing improperly for long periods is a sure-fire route to a mediocre life. What you must consider is whether or not your beliefs can get you to the destination of your dreams. It is critical to evaluate the results in your life and to understand the true underlying cause that is creating those results.
Break free from your past
Perhaps you’ve heard about how elephants are trained to stand tied to a tiny stake in the ground, which they could easily pull up simply by using their considerable strength against the restraint. When an elephant is young, the trainer uses a heavy chain with a shackle around the calf’s ankle, which causes painful sores when the baby elephant tries to move. Within a short period of time, the animal is conditioned to recognize that pulling equals pain. As the elephant matures, the trainer can use a weaker and weaker tether because the elephant won’t test it, until a simple rope tied to a tent stake will keep this five-ton animal from roaming.
It’s likely that many of the beliefs you have today are acting like that weak rope, perhaps holding you in place and preventing you from going where you want to be. That’s why people stay in relationships that aren’t working, keep a job they don’t like, continue neglecting their health, and so on. The good news is you can change. You can break free. You can choose your beliefs and therefore change your results.
I chose to hold onto some of the beliefs I adopted when I was younger—being a risk-taker, trusting my instincts, believing in myself as a manager and even a visionary—and, of course, I decided to jettison those beliefs that were holding me back. Thinking I was not smart enough, that people didn’t like me, and that I couldn’t trust anyone else were definitely not going to get me where I wanted to go. I realized, through the help of many mentors, that for anything in my life to change, I had to change. It works from the inside out, not from the outside in.
Ask yourself whether your most dearly held beliefs are serving you or not. Do they help you create the life of your dreams? Or do they limit you and the people you love? Remember that beliefs are like blinders for humans. They can be so powerful that they cause you to see only what’s in line with them. Yet they are not the Truth. They are just your perception of the truth, based on your past teachings, experiences, and evaluations.
You can choose to change any belief that is not helping you create the life you really want.
HUMOR YOUR STRESS:
Larry Wilde’s Ten (ok, eleven) Commandments for Lighthearted Living
I. Thou shalt make up your mind that no matter what happens you're going to be a happy person. If you're not having fun, FAKE IT.
II. Thou shalt start the day with a smile by reading something funny. Skip the stress of listening to the news.
III. Thou shalt keep smiling! It makes people wonder what you've been up to.
IV. If thou meetist someone who hasn't got a smile, give them yours.
V. Laugh at your dumb mistakes before others have a chance to.
VI. Laugh with your spouse and your marriage will improve with age.
VII. Laugh with your kids and they'll never stop loving you.
VIII. Thou shalt not laugh with your relatives -- it will encourage them to borrow money.
IX. Thou shalt not talk on thy cell phone while standing on line at the Post Office.
X. Don't ever, ever give up. Moses was once a basket case.
XI. AND remember: Angels fly because they take themselves lightly.
Remember: he who laughs, lasts.
Lillian Mills, B.S., M.Ed., C.L.C.
Reinvention Coach
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