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Clear Pathways Coaching Newsletter 3/9/08
Dear Friends:
Welcome to our monthly newsletter. We offer some
information, some inspiration and some features to keep you
smiling.
From around 600 B.C. to the present, sages, teachers,
philosophers, current scientists and researchers all
indicate the effects our thoughts and attitudes have on our
lives, health and general well-being. Negative thinking
can over time result in any number of serious diseases. It
has also been proven that positive thinking can reduce
stress and boost the immune system. There is no question
that our thoughts and attitudes impact our work,
relationships with others and over all quality of life.
Warmly, Lillian
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Contents:
Quote of the month
Consider this
Article
Good humor/good health
QUOTE OF THE MONTH: The greatest discovery of my generation
is that a human being can alter his life by altering his
attitudes. - William James
CONSIDER THIS: Do you have an automatic negative response
to difficult situations or when things don’t go your way?
How does that reaction serve you? What would serve you
better? What can you do to change that negative response?
ARTICLE:
The Formula that Changes EVERYTHING by Jack Canfield
What I've been teaching for years is…
E + R = O
(Events + Responses = Outcome)
The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life
(whether it's success or failure, wealth or poverty,
wellness or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or
frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an
earlier event (or events) in your life.
If you don't like the outcomes you are currently
experiencing, there are two basic choices you can make:
1.) You can blame the event (E) for your lack of results
(O).
In other words, you can blame the economy, the weather, the
lack of money, lack of education, your wife or husband, the
lack of support, and so on.
No doubt all these factors exist, but if they were the
deciding factor, nobody would ever succeed. For every
reason it's not possible, there are hundreds of people who
have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.
It's not the external conditions and circumstances that
stop you -- it's you!
We think limiting thoughts and engage in self-defeating
behaviors. We defend our self-destructive habits (such as
drinking and smoking) with indefensible logic.
We ignore useful feedback, fail to continuously educate
ourselves and learn new skills, waste time on the trivial
aspects of our lives, engage in idle gossip, eat unhealthy
food, fail to exercise, spend more than we make, fail to
tell the truth, don't ask for what we want, and then wonder
why our lives aren't working.
2.) You can instead simply change your responses (R) to the
events (E) until you get the outcomes (O) you want.
You can change your thinking, change your communication,
change the picture you hold in your head (your images of
the world) and you can change your behavior (the things you
do.) That's all you really have any control over anyway.
Unfortunately, most of us are so run by our habits that we
never change our behavior. We get stuck in our conditioned
responses-to our spouses and children, to our colleagues at
work, to our customers and our clients, to our students,
and to the world at large.
You have to gain control of your thoughts, your images,
your dreams and daydreams, and your behavior.
Everything you think, say, and do needs to become
intentional and aligned with your purpose, your values, and
your goals.
If you don't like your outcomes, change your responses.
Here's an example of how this works:
Do you remember the Northridge earthquake in 1994? I do! I
lived through it in Los Angeles. Two days later I watched
as CNN interviewed people commuting to work. The earthquake
had damaged one of the main freeways leading into the city.
Traffic was at a standstill, and what was normally a 1-hour
drive had become a 2-3 hour drive.
The CNN reporter knocked on the window of one of the cars
stuck in traffic and asked the driver how he was doing.
He responded, angrily, "I hate California. First there were
fires, then floods, and now an earthquake! No matter what
time I leave in the morning, I'm late for work. I can't
believe it!"
Then the Reporter knocked on the window of the car behind
him and asked the driver the same question. This driver was
all smiles.
He replied "It's no problem. I left my house at five am. I
don't think under the circumstances my boss can ask for
more than that. I have lots of music and Spanish-language
tapes with me. I've got my cell phone. Coffee in a thermos,
my lunch-I even have a book to read. I'm fine."
Now, if the earthquake or the traffic were really the
deciding variables, then everyone should have been angry.
But everyone wasn't.
It was their individual response to the traffic that gave
them their particular outcome. It was thinking negative
thoughts or positive thoughts, leaving the house prepared
or leaving the house unprepared that made the difference.
It was all a matter of attitude and behavior that created
their completely different experiences.
If we all experience the same EVENT, the OUTCOME you get
will be totally dependent upon your RESPONSE to the
situation.
If you want to take control of how you respond to life,
you'll start noticing that your outcomes will be more along
the lines of what you have always hoped. Remember, you
control your destiny so make it a fantastic one!
© 2008 Jack Canfield
GOOD HUMOR/GOOD HEALTH:
First Grade True Story
One day the first grade teacher was reading the story of
the Three Little Pigs to her class. She came to the part of
the story where the first pig was trying to accumulate the
building materials for his home. She read, "...And so the
pig went up to the man with the wheelbarrow full of straw
and said, "Pardon me sir, but may I have some of that
straw to build my house?" The teacher paused then asked the
class, "And what do you think that man said?"
One little boy raised his hand and said, "I think he said
'Holy %$#@! A talking pig!"
The children were lined up in the cafeteria of a Catholic
elementary school for lunch. At the head of the table was a
large pile of apples. The nun made a note, and posted it on
the apple tray:
'Take only ONE . God is watching.'
Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end of
the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies.
A child had written a note, 'Take all you want. God is
watching the apples.'
Remember: He who laughs, lasts.
Lillian Mills, B.S., M.Ed., C.L.C.
Breakthrough Coach
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